I see this happen all over the place and I actually think it is really sad, but, lot’s of new mums end up feeling trapped & lost because they have completely lost their identity and have just become ‘mum’, I sometimes see this to the extent that some mums have even changed their name to ‘Dexter’s Mum’ on their social media account.
Don’t get me wrong, we LOVE our babies more than anything in the world, but it is so important to love yourself too!
You need to keep that identity of who you were before you had your baby, you want your baby to grow up to be an individual & to do the things they love, but how do you expect them to do this if you’re not setting the example to them?
Plus you will eventually just end up going insane!
It is not selfish to take some time out and look after yourself, whether that is just having a quick relaxing bath or sitting down quietly and reading a book, it is SO important that we look after ourselves just as well as we look after our babies.
If you’re not 100% yourself, you cannot expect to be benefiting anyone to your full potential if you are not benefiting yourself to your full extent.
“You cannot pour from an empty cup.”
I am a new mum myself, with another one on the way, BUT I still continue to do the things that I am passionate about, I haven’t just become ‘mum’, because I want to show to my children that I am a strong, confident & passionate individual, and I want them to say that they are proud of me.
Just playing mum, they will be thankful for everything I have done, but will they be proud… Probably not, because you are just doing what is needed to be done and not doing anything that fuels your fire & that you are passionate about.
If you’re passionate about hair & beauty, set a side 10 minutes a day to quickly put your face on, if you like to read, set aside 15 minutes or more a day to read a couple of pages of your book, if your passionate about being fit & healthy, incorporate it into your day, don’t just decide that you haven’t got time because you’re a mum.
Time is an illusion, if you tell yourself you don’t have time to do something then you won’t do it, we actually always have time, we just need to use it wisely & not waste it.
I am still ME, I am not just mum , mummy or mama, I am ME!