Get Out Of Your Own Head

Today has been rough. From the moment I opened by eyes I’ve had overwhelming feelings of self-doubt, failure, stress & not being worthy…

But why? Why have I woken up having all these feelings even though I was ‘fine’ yesterday. What’s wrong with me… Nothing has happened to make me feel this way. 

If you look at my mental health on paper I am a ‘normal’ ‘stable’ person, but truth is, we all suffer from time to time. We all get stuck in our heads & struggle to get back out again. Fact is we are only human & we all have feelings. 

Feelings need to process our own bodies work in weird ways & my body knows when I start to have these feelings is the only time I will actually take a break & step away from things for a bit.

Business has been non-stop for the last few weeks, which has been incredible & I am in no way complaining but it has drained me completely. I’ve let my own personal self-care slip, whether that is having some pamper time or working on my mindset & personally I’ve gone massively down hill. 

Take this note to remind yourself, no matter how busy you are. Find balance & look after yourself first, because pouring from an empty cup is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do.




Things to do on a Sunday

 1. Shift your mindset

Don’t waste your Sunday having a ‘lazy day’ binge watching your favourite programme. 

Use Sunday as the start of your week. 


Take the pressure off of Monday, get a head start on the week & get yourself prepped for what lies ahead.

2. Meal prep/plan

Save yourself time on everyday of the next week by either prepping your meals for the week ahead or at least planning your meals so you’re not spending time each day looking through your cupboards or fridge-freezer wondering what you can whip together. 

You’ll also save money & be less wasteful by doing this! 


3. Plan your week ahead. 

Plan EVERYTHING! Get out your favourite planner & get your todo lists in order. We have some free downloadable planners available from our shop.
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Try to plan your week as much as you can using hour slots & write specifically what you are planning to do, so if you’re planning to schedule some posts on Facebook, what type of posts are you going to schedule etc…?

The more you can plan, the more smoothly your week will run as you will know exactly what you’re doing & when.


4. Prioritise 

Sometimes your todo list can feel endless, so it is VERY important to prioritise, this way you can tick off your most important tasks before moving onto the less important ones. 

Stick to just one list, don’t over complicate it.


5. Inboxes

 Get on top of all of those inboxes & start your week completely fresh.

6. Set goals

Reflect on how the last week went, then think about how you would like to change the week ahead. 

Then set yourself out some goals to get those results that you want. 

Also think about your bigger goals too & think about the steps you can take to start working towards them, our large goals should always be broken down into smaller goals so they seem more achievable to us as we work up to the big goal by smashing all of the smaller ones.



7. Practice self-care

Always make time for self-care on Sunday, have a warm bath, meditate, have a pamper session, do some reading, take a long walk, go out with a loved one. 

Whatever self-care is for you, DO IT!


8. Clean your space

Whether your space is an entire house, a room or just a desk, make sure it is clean & tidy, you will feel so much better starting a the week with a clean space. 

It will make you happier & more productive if your space is clutter free. 

A clean space = A clean mind


9. Relax

Make sure you also take some time to do nothing as well, remember it is still a day of rest so make sure you schedule yourself in some down time too!

Thank-you for reading 🙂




40 Ways To Be Confident

40 ways to be confident
Things you can to do to be confident;
  1. Smile.
  2. Be grateful.
  3. Groom yourself.
  4. Dress nicely.
  5. Speak slowly.
  6. Stand tall.
  7. Make eye contact.
  8. Talk to strangers.
  9. Accept compliments.
  10. Expect success.
  11. Take risks.
  12. Slow down.
  13. Focus on solutions.
  14. Act positive.
  15. Kill negative thoughts.
  16. Get active/exercise.
  17. Change a small habit.
  18. Photo shop yourself.
  19. Get to know yourself.
  20. Do something you’ve been procrastinating.

  21. Think positive thoughts.
  22. Set small goals & achieve them.
  23. Recognise your talents & good qualities.
  24. Work on small things.
  25. Be kind & generous.
  26. Prepare yourself.
  27. Empower yourself with knowledge.
  28. Empower others.
  29. Know your principles & live by them.
  30. Hire a coach.
  31. Work on your mindset.
  32. Clear your desk/work space.
  33. Increase competence.
  34. Use crystal/reiki healing.
  35. Think of obstacles that stand in your way.
  36. See self-confidence as progress.
  37. Get out of your own head.
  38. Imagine the most confident you.
  39. Stop doubting yourself.
  40. Stop comparing yourself.
After putting  some of these into practice let us know how confident you feel in the comments.

Not What You Planned

Not what you planned
When something doesn’t go to plan, it doesn’t mean that it is the end of the world, just because it didn’t work out the way you expected, it doesn’t mean you can’t make a new plan, or just make a few tweaks to your old one & try again.
I see a quote pop up quite often that I really love.. “When a plan doesn’t work, yell ‘PLOT TWIST!’ & try again!” I couldn’t put it any better myself.
When something doesn’t go the way you expected, that doesn’t mean that you should give up, all it means is that it wasn’t meant to happen that way for you & you’re being directed to a new path to take you to your destination.
Maybe what you think is your destination isn’t actually where you’re meant to be heading & one day you’ll actually be thankful that whatever you had planned in your head didn’t actually work out in the end.
(Probably doesn’t seem like it right now!)
 Just believe in yourself
As long as you believe in yourself, see yourself as successful & truly think that you deserve an incredible future & you have no doubt about it, you will get the future you have always deserved.
You probably won’t get an easy ride, I’m not going to lie, not many people have an easy ride on their way to the top, but that is just the universe throwing some tests your way to make sure you truly believe in yourself!
It is all about LAW OF ATTRACTION (LOA), if you truly believe you have something already, then you’ll get it because if you can see it in your mind you can hold it in your hands, but you have to truly see it & have no doubt in yourself at all.
The universe sees all & hears all, even if you don’t say it out loud, it hears all of your thoughts, even your negative ones. It is so important to keep your mindset strong & really believe that you are unstoppable & nothing can take you down!!!


Focus on soultions
When you feel like you’re stuck, don’t focus on what got you there, focus on how you are going to get out of it. The universe will show you how to find your solutions to all of your problems, you will have the answers & you will be able to get out of your hole.
But, you need to show faith, let the universe know what you are looking for & listen…
I personally find meditation really helps with this, you are shutting yourself off from the outside world & finding your inner peace, the place where these messages are going to be coming directly to you & you are going to hear them loud & clear.
The answers you need are out there, they will find you.
Don’t focus on the negative & how you got to wherever you are, focusing on what you got there in the first place isn’t going to be the thing to help you get to where you want to be. All that is going to do is put you into a negative mindset & make you feel trapped & that there is no way out – which is the worse thing you can do to yourself.
There is always a solution, you might not feel like it right now & at the moment you might think that you are completely screwed. But to be honest, you are screwed if that’s the mindset you have.
If you tell yourself there is no solution & you’re trapped, when the universe is showing you a solution you’re not going to see/hear that important message because you’re not looking for it.
That is why it is so important to focus on the solution, rather than focusing on how you got to the position that you are in.
You might have to look harder than you thought, but the answer is there, I don’t have it for you but you do have it for yourself, have some faith, be positive & listen!


Remember… You just need to focus on the solution!


READ – Keeping Your Thoughts Clear



Body Confidence

Body Confidence
The world is full of body shaming, the sad thing is, most the time people don’t even realise they are doing it & most the time they are even doing it to themselves. I am making it my mission to fill the world with more body confidence & just confidence in general!
Most people only look at what is on the surface, it’s about time people started to look a little deeper. People body shame each other daily without even knowing they are doing it or realising the knock on effect it will have on someone’s confidence.
It seems very innocent at the time, just like you’re supporting other people the same size as yourself, but matter of the fact is you’re also putting millions of other people down at the same time, so throughout this blog we are going to change that to embracing confidence within eachother.
Just because I’m a tall larger build, doesn’t make me any less than someone who is a short slim build, it doesn’t make me have less confidence. I don’t label myself as ‘fat’, I don’t label myself as anything.
I am me, and no one can take that away from me.
Why do we feel the need to label ourselves as ‘skinny’, ‘curvy’, ‘fat’, ‘shapeless’..? Do we not see we are just adding to the division..?
Once we learn to stop labeling ourselves and each other, and learn to be happy just being us. Not having to have the validation of other people, that is when you can be truly happy within yourself & experience what it is like to have real body confidence.
Just be you, enjoy life, don’t look at the girl walking past the window in the coffee shop and think ‘God she’s so skinny she looks unhealthy’, or ‘How do you allow yourself to get to that size’, when they walk past simply think you to yourself, ‘Wow, look at her absolutely rocking at being herself, no one can rock that as much as her!’.
Embrace what makes you different & what makes you stand out from the crowd, someone will the confidence to be themselves are much more liked by everyone then someone who has no confidence to be themselves & choose to just fit into the crown, being drowned out by all the sameness around them, it’s almost like a sea of boringness.
Have body confidence!

50 Confidence Quotes

50 confidence quotes;
  1. “I have great faith in fools – self-confidence my friends will call it.” ― Edgar Allan Poe
  2. “Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.” ― Jalaluddin Rumi
  3. “The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.” ― M. Barrie
  4. “We are always the same age inside. ” ― Gertrude Stein
  5. “When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.” ― Jodi Picoult
  6. “When someone tells me “no,” it doesn’t mean I can’t do it, it simply means I can’t do it with them.” ― Karen E. Quinones Miller
  7. “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ― Lao Tzu
  8. “Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” ― Coco Chanel
  9. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” ― Theodore Roosevelt
  10. “As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  11. “The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.” ― Sylvia Plath
  12. “If being an egomaniac means I believe in what I do and in my art or music, then in that respect you can call me that… I believe in what I do, and I’ll say it.” ― John Lennon
  13. “You’re gorgeous, you old hag, and if I could give you just one gift ever for the rest of your life it would be this. Confidence. It would be the gift of confidence. Either that or a scented candle” ― David Nicholls
  14. “Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit” ― E. Cummings
  15. “I do not believe in taking the right decision, I take a decision and make it right.” ― Muhammad Ali Jinnah
  16. “As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.” ― Nic Sheff
  17. “If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality.” ― Roopleen
  18. “Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others … Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth.” ― Katherine Mansfield
  19. “I laugh at myself. 
    I don’t take myself completely seriously.
    I think that’s another quality that people have to hold on to… you have to laugh, especially at yourself.” ― Madonna
  20. “Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
  21. “Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.” ― Dorothy M. Neddermeyer
  22. “Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look.” ― Marcus Aurelius
  23. “Be an Encourager: When you encourage others, you boost their self-esteem, enhance their self-confidence, make them work harder, lift their spirits and make them successful in their endeavors. Encouragement goes straight to the heart and is always available. Be an encourager. Always.” ― Roy T. Bennett
  24. “Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.” ― Bell Hooks
  25. “I’m not insecure. I’ve been through way too much f**king sh*t to be insecure. I’ve got huge balls. But I’ve been humbled. That makes you grateful for every day you have.” ― Drew Barrymore

  26. “To overcome fear is the quickest way to gain your self-confidence.” ― Roy T. Bennett
  27. “Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions … Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.” ― Tina Fey
  28. “No matter what a woman looks like, if she’s confident, she’s sexy” ― Paris Hilton
  29. “What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve.” ― Norman Vincent Peale
  30. “Control Your Own Destiny or Someone Else Will” ― Jack Welch
  31. “Why should I care what other people think of me? I am who I am. And who I wanna be.” ― Avril Lavigne
  32. “Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.” ― Roopleen
  33. “We can say that Muad’Dib learned rapidly because his first training was in how to learn. And the first lesson of all was the basic trust that he could learn.” ― Frank Herbert
  34. “A diamond doesn’t start out polished and shining. It once was nothing special, but with enough pressure and time, becomes spectacular. I’m that diamond.” ― Solange nicole
  35. “Confidence is like a dragon where, for every head cut off, two more heads grow back.” ― Criss Jami
  36. “Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
  37. “My self-confidence can be measured out in teaspoons mixed into my poetry, and it still always tastes funny in my mouth.” ― Sarah Kay
  38. “At every given moment we are absolutely perfect for what is required for our journey.” ― Steve Maraboli
  39. “If my mind can conceive it, 
    My heart can believe it, 
    I know I can achieve it!” ― Jesse Jackson
  40. “How we love others is affected by how we love ourselves, and for the first time in a long time, I was whole.” ― Richelle Mead,
  41. “Chasing a person doesn’t give you value or build values in you. You earn your value by chasing morality and practicing dignity.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  42. “Believe in yourself up here and it will make you stronger than you could ever imagine.” ― Sarah Dessen
  43. “Pride is holding your head up when everyone around you has theirs bowed. Courage is what makes you do it.” ― Bryce Courtenay
  44. “Lack of confidence, sometimes alternating with unrealistic dreams of heroic success, often leads to procrastination, and many studies suggest that procrastinators are self-handicappers: rather than risk failure, they prefer to create conditions that make success impossible, a reflex that of course creates a vicious cycle.” ― James Surowiecki
  45. “Noble and great. Courageous and determined. Faithful and fearless. That is who you are and who you have always been. And understanding it can change your life, because this knowledge carries a confidence that cannot be duplicated any other way.” ― Sheri Dew
  46. “People who repeatedly attack your confidence and self-esteem are quite aware of your potential, even if you are not.” ― Wayne Gerard Trotman
  47. “Try giving up all the thoughts that make you feel bad, or even just some of them, and see how doing that changes your life. You don’t need negative thoughts. All they have ever given you was a false self that suffers. They are all lies.” ― Gina Lake
  48. “I would rather be damned by my honesty, than caged by my lies.” ― Omega Maverick
  49. “Criticism is just someone else’s opinion. Even people who are experts in their fields are sometimes wrong. It is up to you to choose whether to believe some of it, none of it, or all of it. What you think is what counts.” ― Rodolfo Costa
  50. “The moment you become friends with your inner Self, you realize that the failures or hindrances that you met earlier were caused more by your disconnected status with your inner Being.” ― Stephen Richards
Share your own quote about confidence in the comments!

You Were Born With It

Everyone was born with confidence, even you!
As children we are all confident, we aren’t afraid to fail, we just keep trying until we get where we want to be. When we are learning to walk, we don’t just fall over once or twice or maybe even three times, then decide we can’t do it & give up… we keep trying over & over again until be are completely stable on our feet!
We don’t care what other people think of us, we just get on with our lives, we wear what we like, we sing in public, we speak to people we don’t know, WE ARE CONFIDENT!
But why are so many of us not confident as adults? What the hell happens to us!?
What happened to that childlike belief that we are untouchable & no one can take us down..?
It is like our brain is re-programmed as we get older & we end up caring too much of what other people have to say about what we are doing, we even worry about what complete strangers are thinking about us.. but does it really matter?
They don’t know anything about us & we don’t know anything about them, to be completely honest, we will probably never see them again, so does their option really matter..?
You can get back that childlike belief that you are untouchable, nothing can stop you & you are the most confident version of yourself!
It’s all about changing your mindset & truly believing in yourself, because you deserve to be the most confident version if yourself.
There is NO-ONE else in the world like you, you are unique, individual & original, EMBRACE IT, BE CONFIDENT!
See my blog post from yesterday for 40 different ways you can help your confident.

Keeping Your Thoughts Clear

Keeping your thoughts clear…
I’ve woken up with some food for thought & wanted to share it all with you quickly because I feel like it is really important.
It is true that you choose what you manifest, but the universe is a funny thing & your need to keep your thoughts clear on what it is that you actually want to manifest, rather than what you do not want to manifest. 
I’m actually going to tell you a story about a lady I know, she didn’t have a very good upbringing, her mum was a drug addict & she was never around for her, I don’t know about her dad, she never mentioned him, I don’t think she actually knew who he was.
She grew up with a pretty shocking lifestyle, but when she got married & had her own children she always swore she would never become the person her mum did, but she did become that person, she no longer sees her children because she is also a drug addict, she left her husband for ‘better’ things & her life completely turned upside down.
Some of you might think that this shouldn’t of happened, this shouldn’t of been what she manifested.. but why did it manifest..?
Because she didn’t keep her thoughts clear enough, the frequency wasn’t right, she focused so much on the person that she didn’t want to become, she became it. 
My point here is that the universe needs to hear you LOUD & CLEAR, you can choose what you manifest, but make sure you focus on the things you actually want rather than the things you don’t.
If this lady had spend more time focusing on the person that she wanted to become, rather than the person she NEVER wanted to become, then things would of been a lot different for her & her family, but that is what the universe heard, so that is what the universe gave her.
Be careful,  keep your thoughts clear, focus on the person you want to be, not the person you don’t want to become. 

Learn To Love Yourself

The most important thing you can do for yourself, is learn to love yourself, this isn’t the easiest thing to do, it is much easier to find all the things we hate about ourselves and dwell on them but this is actually the worst thing you could do.
You’re creating a mindset of which you hate yourself, you are not happy, you don’t love yourself, matter of fact, you don’t even like yourself, but if you feel this way about YOU, how is someone else support to love you, make you feel happy even just like you as a person?
To be able to let others into your life and truly get the best experience for it, you honestly need to learn to LOVE YOURSELF!
Sounds really cheesy right? But it is true!
Fall in love with what you see in the mirror, love your uniqueness, love your individuality, don’t ever try to be someone else because there is no one else in the world like YOU!
There never has been anyone like you, and there NEVER will be anyone like you!
There is no point in comparing yourself to others, you do not need to be validated by another person – don’t depend on things to give you status & recognition, already believe you have it & the rest will follow.
Decide to be a joyful person, irrespective of circumstance, because there is always someone out there worse of than what you are, and sometimes these people can be closer to home than you think – always be grateful for what you have, even the smallest things in life.
Don’t keep waiting for the perfect time, live in the moment, the HERE & NOW!
Don’t waste your precious time, we only get so much!
Write down all of your successes & celebrate every single one! Whether you managed to get out of bed today and open your curtains, or whether you got that promotion at work, we all see different things as successes because we are all DIFFERENT!
To fail means you did better than the one that did not try at all and in my personal opinion, you can never fail as long as you always do you best, it’s just a learning curve!
Always help those that are less fortunate than you are, whether that is helping the old lady next door get her shopping inside or buy the homeless man in town a sandwich, even such small acts of kindness has a massive impact on your self-worth & value, not only are you benefiting yourself, you are helping out another person at the same time, which is going to make them feel great too!
It can be a difficult thing to do, but accept compliments from other people – they genuinely mean it, even if you don’t believe it, just smile and say thank-you, even compliment them back!
You should also celebrate the people who criticise you, the more citicisms you have the more valuable you are – they are only criticising you because they are feeling threatened by your GREATNESS!
Problems always gravitate to their solution, just let your universe show you the way!
I hope that this helps you to realise loving yourself is one of the up most important things you can do for yourself and for your family.
If you still feel like you need help with learning to love yourself you can download my 7 day workbook ‘Learn To Love Yourself’ to help you become the most confident verison of yourself.